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There is so much more to play than you know! I know you're not using play the way your kids need you to! 

There is so much power, healing and purpose in it.

Play isn't really about fun or entertainment and that's how everyone approaches it.

Play is how our kids process life and their emotions.

It's where you can teach. This is how they learn best. So much more can be taught without words.  

 

It's a place of true rest for their body. This only happens when it's independent.

It's not something that you can force or tell them to do.

Not with other kids or sports or hobbies or planned or set up for them. 

True play can be really hard to experience if you keep them busy or entertained

and if there is no space to even enter they’ll be missing out on so much healing and nourishment.

They explore and express. They process fears, hurts, losses, powerlessness, mistakes, failures, frustration and anxiety.

 

Play is the healthy way to move aggression and learn impulse control and regulation. 

And it's the only way around those walls, their defense and protective states. 

Play is where you connect and help them heal. You can solve everything here!

Children don’t say I’ve had a bad day. They say, Will you play with me?

Stories are even more magical! You bring up feelings so they can be processed, understood and released. 

You bring stored emotions and situations to the surface to heal. They can be used with every issue you’re dealing with.

Big concepts and little personal problems. I really love them so much ♥

Play is also the best and easiest way to direct and shift energy and change behavior. 

If you're not using it for your own sake, you're missing the joy in this journey. 

Nature uses play as alchemy. Another force given to us so our job can be done with ease, flow and fun!

This is my favorite Spiral. It's full of so much goodness in each concept, idea and example.

There are actually a lot of reasons play can be hard for you and your child. I'll show you how to change that. 

Play will transform your life entirely. It's how you really touch the places you want to impact and change. 

Any other way isn't through the body and it's not going to work or last.

It strengthens attachment and deepens connection, even in the hard times and rough spots.

Because honestly how can infusing play not make it better?!  

I promise this is one of the most important Spirals for the overall wellbeing of your child. 

Play to me is foundational and we should all know its immense power and potential. 

I give it to you all here! Let's Play ☺

WHAT YOU WILL RECEIVE FROM THIS SPIRAL

Here is all you can expect inside:

 

Lots of real life examples. 

Scripts and ideas as inspiration. 

How to really make this possible in real life.

Tips, Guidelines, Ideas, Activities, Themes

Questions and prompts for reflection.

Easy ways to change your perspective in the moments to open the space for a new way. 

Reflect on why you’re doing it. Look at your truth, beliefs, conditioning and heal it.

What to do in places that trigger you (if you haven’t healed yet)

Why things can be really hard for us and how to get and stay out of the way.

What I do with my girls and why. I’ll give you lots of detailed examples. 

Daily things you can do to keep attachment strong. 

Things to do in the moment, after and outside the moments.  

Intentionally create more balance. Protect them. Create the space for them to thrive. 

 

Look at different scenarios or ways to approach different children.

The emotional and relationship tools for a lifetime. 

Core knowing, understanding and experience of relationships.

 

Where your focus, attention, direction and action needs to be. 

What is your responsibility and what’s not. 

How to respond to the energy not the behavior. 

The simplicity of it all. 

All the opportunities for healing. 

Take advantage of all the good, powerful, impactful, positive ways and places.

THE PROCESS

Send me your answers to my questions ☺ and I will reply with helpful insight. 

I want to know you and your story, so I can support and initially guide you on your journey.

I will help pinpoint your core issues and advise where to best place your energy going in. 

I know this will transform you! And I will make sure you receive as much as you can to integrate and experience true change.

This will NOT just be another thing. I've done way too many of those myself and I've created this for that exact reason.

You can return when you need to refresh or re-evaluate as you move through new stages.

You have lifetime access to the Spiral.

SUPPORT

Community to share and explore together. Support and be supported. Connect with like-hearted women. 

One month free access to the INTENTIONAL membership which opens April 2024.

This will give you the space to ask all your questions whenever you're ready.

INVESTMENT $ 2 9 7

You are worth all that it takes to embody who you truly are and mother from that place

You are worth it 

Your child is worth it 

THE OUTLINE

PLAY

The beginnings of secure attachment. Our babies and where it all starts. 

The foundational information and explanation of attachment and how it works. 

Your role and your child's role. All the things a secure child learns. Attachment hunger.

6 year timeline. What this looks like in real life and how to strengthen each part. 

 

BREAKDOWN

How development and maturity connect. 

What you need to be aware of so you’re not hindering the process. 

How your nervous system states, lifestyle and society affects their development.

How they need to be truly dependent on you to ever be independent.

How development relates to behavior. 

Explanation and examples of places that are typical, but not natural or supportive of development or attachment. 

What’s really going on when you have to leave the park and how to handle transitions. 

How to reorient when attachments change. 

How to handle developmental delays in a healthy way.

How to protect development and set boundaries. 

 

FORMS

True explanation of what shyness is and isn’t. 

How to safely approach shyness and not hinder their instincts or add labels or shame.
 

CONNECT

What it is and how you assume your role. 

How it all goes back to safety and what that means to strengthen your position. 

What this looks like and doesn’t look like. 

 

LAUGHTER

The explanation of why this happens and the things that put this role reversal in place. 

Signs and what it looks like when your child has stepped into the alpha role.

What it feels like for you and how you might feel about your child. 

How this affects the nervous system and how it’s wired. 

Other ways this shows up in life and in other relationships. 

A look at your stuff and how it affects them. 

 

RELEASE

All the things you need to BE. 

All the ways you assume your role and keep it strong. 

How to keep your focus on you, not them. 

How to be the parent. How to be responsible and accountable and influence outcomes. 

The truth around boundaries and how to set them. 

How to get to the place of balance between kind and firm, not too tough or nice. 

 

FEAR

Discuss all the places, teachers, caregivers, family, friends. 

How we lose our kids and how to hold onto them. 

How to set up strong attachments with other adults. 

What’s really happening when you’re not their attachment. 

The actual relationship model and timeline so they establish themselves first. 

How wounding happens and how to prevent it. 

What happens when your child attaches to a peer. 

Divorce situations. 

 

PHYSICAL

How to provide unconditional safety.

Looking at how you provide safety and if they are truly experiencing it. 

How to create a solid, secure, safe foundation as your child’s core truth. 

Safety setpoints and how to change them. How this affects all their future relationships. 

How everything happens in our bodies and it only matters how safe it feels. 
 

POWERLESS

Understand its true purpose. Honor and respect its immense function in our lives. 

How to know how to approach and work with it, not against it. 

How to normalize alarm. 

How to use this energy correctly and in the healthiest way for your body. 

How our brain turns alarm into a story and this is what we think is the “problem.”

What alarm becomes for our kids when they don’t stay in their body with the sensation. 

How to approach and handle fears. 

Steps to bring down alarm in the moment. Prepare and empower outside the moment. 

How to use your alpha role to reduce alarm. 

Replace their idea with more truth. 

How to use play to naturally conquer fears and alarm. 

 

VIOLENCE

Full explanation of how this has the greatest impact on attachment and the NS. 

How to handle anticipated separation. 

How to handle, prepare separation, before, during and after.

What to do so attachment is strong and you don’t have separation issues 

What it takes to be truly attached to another adult and how to intentionally create this.

What to do when separation is an issue every time.

Lots of examples of what to do to strengthen attachment for being separated.

Steps to do before school starts.

What to do before and after separation.

Matchmaking, greeting, collecting, orienting.

Difference between alarm and exhaustion.

Defensive detachment, this is a commonly misunderstood experience, you think they’re having fun, but it’s an attachment red flag.

 

DEFENSE

Truth, differences, importance. The primal explanation. 

How to honor, encourage and celebrate it.

Lifelong empowerment tool.

Understanding misdirected times. Be a detective.

 

INTERRUPT

What’s happening and what’s being wired for your child. 

How they can end up adapting or coping to being stuck in this defense state. 

Hidden places this can develop.

Distinction though between aggressive behavior and the release of aggression. 

The trap of giving in when it’s not about the physical thing or getting their way. 

All the ways we make it wrong and how this stops their intuition

How to talk about and normalize tears.

 

STORIES

Manage the places of separation, alarm and stress for them.

Quirk + stress = disorder.

Even the littlest things you or they might not consider or think of. 

Reduce or eliminate where and when you can. 

Mental stimulation. 

Rituals, Routines, Rhythms. Frameworks. Balance.

Toys. Play areas. Environments. 

How we offer entertainment and screens. Boredom. 

Set up for self-sufficiency. Prepare. Role play. Rehearse. 

 

GUIDELINES, TIPS, IDEAS, ACTIVITIES

What and how to create this channel of energy between you. 

What to focus on and make sure they know. 

 

THEMES

Bad words. Aggression. Lying + Cheating. Divorce. Anger

 

PLAY LANGUAGES

Why this is the biggest threat to your child. 

Find the alarm.

Provide the right connection

Preparation. Bedtime routines.

3 main things they need to sleep. 

How to provide safety and connection specific to sleep.

What to do so they don’t suppress or dissociate and develop coping methods tied to sleep.

Tired cues and how to respond in an attuned way.

All the hidden factors or places that could be affecting sleep or the alarm around it.

Tips for things not to do before or around bedtime.

Ways to infuse play.

 

REFLECTION

What mixed feelings are and how they affect how we approach so much developmentally. 

Really understanding and looking at the elements of frustration. Know how it works, how it’s supposed to move, and then you can support your child in the process.

The harm in trying to calm them down.

How this equates to being quiet and this disconnects them from their body

The full outline of this growth journey for emotional regulation.

How to direct the energy to move from mad to sad. 

 

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