WHAT IS ATTACHMENT?!

Attachment does 3 important things. 

It gives you your power to parent. 

It engages your child’s innate drive to be receptive to your parenting. 

And it is the only way your child will ever reach full maturity. 

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It’s a 7 year process that builds on each other. When they lose attachment, they stop development.

 

Attachment isn’t baby wearing or co sleeping.

It’s not just a good relationship or strong connection or bond.

It’s not how much you love them or they love you.

It’s not how many times you say it or try to prove it.

The ultimate love is their attachment to you. 

 

Attachment is the experience of safety through relationship.

The body learns if it can rely on this attachment to take care of me or do I need to take care of myself?! 

 

It’s not just a style or approach to parenting.

It’s not another thing you have to do.

All you do is take your place. You uphold your alpha role.

They rest in their dependent role.

And this hierarchy has to be in place their entire childhood. 

 

If they’re not attached they will be against you.

You are not safe.

They will defend against and protect themselves from you.

Which is going to look and feel like wrong or bad behavior. 

 

If you don’t know about attachment and fill this primal need for them.

They’ll be stuck in survival mode and again this is where behavior shows up.

They’re literally trying to survive without you. 

 

You have to keep attachment going and strong and there is so much in our society that pulls us away from it.

You think it’s normal or typical, but most of it is in total opposition to attachment. 

 

When you know attachment you’ll have the awareness to know what’s going on.

You’ll know what needs support or attention so that you’re not wasting your life on band-aids. 

 

This is the foundation of being human. Safety and Connection. And this never changes.  

 

Learn this and you'll essentially learn how to be human

and along with that have your power to parent another human☺